Thursday, March 31, 2011
The unseen casualties
Thinking about the newest Gold Star families, it made me think about the families that did have their Hero come home only to find that they too, are a casualty of war. PTSD has ruined lives, marriages, and families. I have so much to be thankful for, even with everything that happened in Afghanistan, my Hero came home. Not all wounds are visible, and I've seen a friend's marriage fall apart from PTSD. We need to release the stigma on these Heroes. I've also seen how people can attack a Hero with PTSD, saying it's all an act so that they could come home early. Wives who have their so-called friends turn on them because their husband came home early because of these types of problems. It's easy to think "Well, you have him home, so my situation is worse than yours." but really, is the person who left the one who came back? Soldiers don't get sent home from a deployment for just any ol' reason, it has to be serious. If it's serious enough to get sent home, it's serious enough to cause a major life change in that family! Don't try to compare situations...don't try to "one-up" someone on how bad your situation is. It's also easy to be jealous--and that makes us defensive. We need to remember that we're all in this together, we all need support--whether our Hero is home, in training, at school, or deployed. We're part of a worldwide sisterhood, stand next to your sisters, you never know when you're going to need them to stand next to you.